Full Circle

So here we are again.

Some of you may know that over this past week I’ve been in the process of moving from Seattle to Los Angeles. What a lot of you probably don’t know is why.

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This move is very important to me. It is very scary but it also feels vital, I have to do it. I was living in LA and had just graduated from FIDM (The Fashion Institute of Design and Merchandising) when I got diagnosed with cancer. Well, it was suspected that I had cancer so I went home immediately to get diagnosed but, you get the gist. I had been in LA for just about 15 months. I had suffered through those terrible first three where you miss your family, your home, everything normal. I had forged irreplaceable friendships and created my own home, my own community, my new normal. And then I was ripped out of “my life,” and shoved into a totally new one. Literally, I found out I “might” have cancer in the morning and by the evening I was on a plane home. My roommates had to pack up all of my belongings (some of which are still here, btw) and send them to WA.

Sure, I could have stayed in LA if I wanted to. If I wanted to suffer through it alone, burden my friends with the responsibility of taking care of me, of watching me lose myself over and over again. But I knew what was best and even though I didn’t necessarily want to I knew that I had to go back home. I don’t regret that decision, I needed to be with my family. But that didn’t make it any easier for me to leave my “new” family, it broke my heart.

I still remember when the doctor came in to diagnose me and I asked, “When can I go back?,” and he said, “It will be at least eight months.” So there it was. Eight months. My biggest fear was that during those eight months, my LA community would dwindle, my irreplaceable friends would forget about me and move on. They’d get caught up in the constant motion of LA and leave me in the dust. I mean, I’d only known them for a year or less-than, and I didn’t know if they valued my friendship as much as I valued theirs.

Truth be told, I don’t care that much about LA. Yeah I love the beach, I love the shopping, I love how modern and cool everything is. But I don’t feel like I can’t find just as many or just as spectacular things to love in Seattle or anywhere else for that matter. I care about my friends. I wasn’t sitting at home thinking I’ve got to beat this, I’ve got to survive cancer. I was thinking, I’ve got to do this, I’ve got to take this chemo so that I can get to the eighth month and go home, back to LA, back to my beautiful friends. As far as I’m concerned, the chemo fought the cancer, I fought the emotional repercussions and tried my best to enjoy my time in Washington with my family. But I did it all with a fire fueled by my determination to get back to Los Angeles.

Fortunately, they didn’t leave me in the dust. They were amazing and supportive and even made trek up to visit me in Seattle a few times while I was sick. But even though I was comforted to know that our relationships could thrive despite the distance, it didn’t alter the way that I felt about moving back to LA. I felt like it wasn’t fair, the way that I had to leave. I wanted to come back, even if its just for a while, so that I could have the opportunity to make the choice of my own accord.

After eight months, I still couldn’t go. I had to wait two more months to begin maintenance chemo, and then still another three months to get the doses of that stabilized. At that point it just seemed silly for me to move because my family was going to Hawaii and Ireland within a month of each other. And after that it would basically be June, which is important because at the end of July, my old roommates would have an opening for a roommate. So why would I put myself through all of the torture of finding my own place or new roommates, when I could just wait a few months, do some traveling, visit LA as often as possible and then move back in with my best friends? I wouldn’t, and I didn’t.

So here I am. Sixteen months later, sitting in my apartment which I share with two of my best friends (and Kim who is fast becoming a third) writing my first blog post of this new chapter in my life. Oh, and Val’s here too.

It feels a little scary to actually be here, but it feels right at the same time. I’ve officially completed the circle.

xoxo Kathy

My week on Dream Street

Hello to my wonderful friends,

Did you miss me? Did you even notice that I was gone? It didn’t feel like I was. It felt like I was in a dream. Please watch this video to see why!

Did you watch it? I hope so!

I promise, the follow up for my Leukoenceph. story will be up this week before I begin my long drive back to LA!

Here’s a few pics of the trip and a video of me zip lining for you to enjoy:

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First group photo!

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Beautiful view!

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photo 2-2The rock that I painted to leave at Canyon Ranch

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Group photo after funk class!

photo 3Beautiful fountain!

photo 4Putting our crutches to good use after my scooter died!

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The scooter girls minus our scooters!

photo 3-2One of the javelina’s we found!

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Path to the labyrinth/beautiful view!

And here is me on the zip line!

xoxo Kathy

Déjà Vu

Twice today I experienced déjà vu and it got me thinking. Once this morning, when my aunt decided to venture out and pick up breakfast burritos. The prospect of having a delicious breakfast burrito made me the back to the last time that I had one which I realized was, coincidentally, almost exactly one year ago. Last year at the beginning of August I was in San Diego/LA, enjoying the best breakfast burrito I’ve ever had.

I decided to move downstairs to eat. So I hobbled down on my crutches and sat at our kitchen table. From there, I had a decent view of outside, and noticed that someone had finally reset the patio furniture which had been strewn about the yard since my sister’s graduation party. I promptly decided to move outside and as I sat down on one of our cushy whicker chairs and looked out at our lush, sun drenched yard I realized that almost exactly a year ago I was doing this very same thing. I was resting outside on the patio furniture, set almost exactly as it is today, breathing in fresh air and trying to heal my aching body. Thankfully, this time I’m only trying to heal my aching hips.

These weird coincidences got me thinking about how much has changed since then and how much is changing still, but how much is still exactly the same. Peoples lives change all the time. My life, for example, has changed a great deal over the past few years. I graduated highs school and moved to away to a new city all on my own. I made amazing new friends in my new home and started at a great school. A year later, I graduated from that school and was promptly diagnosed with cancer. Shortly after, I moved back to my hometown where my cancer remised. And through all of these changes there are still things in my life that are exactly the same.

I often think that cancer changed me, completely. That the old Katherine died during that period of my life and what came out of it was a different Katherine, a better one. But I don’t think that’s true anymore. I have changed so much throughout the last few years, cancer probably being the most impactful, but I am still the same me. There are things about the person that I am today that are the same as the person I was before. Little things that make me, me. Like my favorite places to go, my favorite things to do, my favorite people to be with, my favorite restaurants, my favorite stores and my good and bad habits. The little things that have always made me tick, and always will.

Nothing will ever really change all of who you are. You can change the way you behave, the way you react, the ways that you live your life, but there are some things about you, the things that make you who you are, that will never change. So don’t worry, because you’ll ALWAYS be you!

xoxo Kathy

Surgery and Life Update

Hello all of you beautiful people,

As some of you know I had surgery on both of my hips to help with my Avascular Necrosis (AVN) this past Wednesday. AVN is caused by low blood flow to a bone or joint, I have it in both of my femoral heads. In my case it was caused by high dose steroid use during chemotherapy. The low blood flow causes the bone to die and become misshapen which results in a lot of pain! The surgeon drilled holes through my bones to break up the dead bone tissue and allow more blood to reach the area, hopefully resulting in new tissue growth and no more AVN!

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The surgery went well and I didn’t even have to spend the night in the hospital like we originally thought (thank god). I kicked all of the pain meds after two days and have been able to get around fairly well on my crutches. I even went shopping yesterday! I am so pleased as I have a lot of exciting stuff coming up in the next few weeks and a lot of it was dependent on how I’d be feeling after this procedure!

Next week I will be participating in a panel at the SMAHRT (Social Media and Adolescent Health Research Team) Conference put on by the Seattle Children’s Research Institute. The next day, I’m jumping on a plane and heading to a camp for young adult cancer patients in Arizona. The camp is being put on by the Dream Street Foundation and it is at a spa! To be honest, I’m a little nervous because there is supposed to be a lot of heartfelt talks and group therapy which is something I have been avoiding for months. I’m hoping to have a great experience and meet some cool people, and if all else fails, at least its at a spa!

Lastly, I am finally moving back to LA! Most of you know that I was living in LA and going to design school before I got sick. Most of you probably don’t know that since I got back and began chemo, all I’ve been trying to do is get back there! The thought of getting back to LA and back to my friends and my life was what got me through the dark times in my chemotherapy. It’s taken me longer than I thought it would, but I never gave up and now I’m finally going to be moving back! I can’t wait for August to start and for me to start taking my life back for real!

Look out world!

xoxo Kathy

PS I’ll be continuing my Leukoenceph. story this week!! Click here for part 1 or part 2

LeukoencephalopathyHere is the continuation of my story, to read the first installment, please click here.

The next morning, I woke up feeling.. okay. The doctors came in to do their rounds and explained that what had happened to me was a form of leukoencephalopathy caused by the methotrexate in my spinal fluid. I’ll be honest, I don’t really ask a lot of questions when it comes to medical deep medical mumbo-jumbo. I need to know a general idea of what, a reason why (if there is one) and what I need to do to make it go away. So the gist I got from the docs was that this leuko-business occurred due to an allergic reaction of sorts to the chemo. I usually sum it up as an inflammation of the fluid layer surrounding my brain. I honestly don’t know if that’s actually what it was but.. that’s how I always describe it.

The “antedote” for this reaction is.. cough syrup… no seriously. They stuck a tube down my nose and into my stomach to force feed me cough syrup.

As the day dragged on I began to feel worse and worse, nothing compared to the day before but I definitely wasn’t my usual chemo-ridden self. I became extremely nauseous, at least that was what I thought it was, and asked for a dose of zofran before I headed home. That’s right, home. Earlier in the day the doctors told us that my counts looked good and I could be discharged, a rare opportunity that my mother and I jumped at (it was my shortest hospital stay to date). This also meant that I could have the NG tube removed from my throat, but only if I could show everyone that I was able to drink and swallow on my own. Try swallowing with a tube stuck down your throat without gagging, yuck. I did what I had to do to get the hell out of there and choked down some water. A nurse came in and swiftly plucked the tube out.. a sensation that I was TOTALLY unprepared for and wished to never feel again thanks to the lovely amount of bile that came up with it.

Here’s something to keep in mind as you continue to read, the day that I experienced my first little bout of leukoencephalopathy via intrathecal methotrexate, was the day that I received yet another infusion of, ding ding ding! Intrathecal methotrexate! There was no way for us to know it, but leaving the hospital that day was a HUGE mistake. We were sent home by the hospital and told by the doctors that everything seemed fine and if something were to happen we should call. Looking back on it, I’m grateful that I got to suffer through the next few days at home instead of in, as I like to call it, Monkey Jail. I’m sure that anyone who has spent time in the hospital can understand that.

I arrived home feeling like crap and figured I just needed to rest and sleep off what remained of the reaction, besides, I pretty much always felt some sort of under-the-weather. I choked down my cough syrup gel caps, little red pills I took to calling, “dragon eggs,” and went to sleep. The next morning I didn’t feel much better, I might even have been a little worse. And we found out that I definitely was worse when we got a call from the hospital. The doctor who sent us home misread my blood counts and I needed to go back to clinic to get a blood transfusion, immediately. (This is funny because anyone who looked at my labs would have had to read them wrong in order for me to be discharged and sent home. It’s even funnier because my mom always requests a copy of my lab sheets to keep for her records and for some reason on this day she didn’t get one.)

Mom and I headed back up there, an hour each way, to get the blood. Needless to say we were cranky about the whole situation. I tried to tell the Nurse Practitioner who saw me while I was getting my transfusion that I felt more ill than normal but she thought it was just because of the blood and since I didn’t have a fever, sent me back home. Generally, a blood transfusion can solve so many of a cancer patients immediate problems. If you’re dizzy, winded, tired, you’re heart beats fast or you’re pale, blood can give you a nice boost of color and energy, it almost makes you feel like a normal person again. For these reasons, it was logical to assume that getting blood would make me feel better and I would be fine to go home. I wasn’t fine. I remember getting in to the car after leaving clinic and feeling so crappy that I told mom not to start the car yet. I waited until I felt a little bit better and then allowed her to start driving us home.

The next few days were.. miserable. The blood did not help at all. It is hard for me to remember a lot of what happened, I think that’s because I was mostly sleeping and resting, but there are a few things that I can share. I couldn’t stand to have the television on, the only thing I would allow was my mother to read to me before I went to sleep. I never left my bed and in my bed I hardly moved. I barely ate anything. One morning I woke up early and felt okay, so I started a movie on Hulu and actually requested food. A few bites in I began to feel yucky again. I shoved away the plate and turned off the movie. Later, mom tried to get me to go on a walk around the block. I refused and she pushed, thinking it would do me some good. I finally gave in but only got to the mailbox, a few feet from our house, before I felt so exhausted that I had to turn back. That was shocking to me. I’d had my fair share of days on end spent in bed and not eating, but I’d always been at least able to make it to the end of our street, even if I couldn’t go all the way around the block.

The worst thing, the hardest thing for me to relive, was when I was coerced into bathing. I couldn’t be up long enough to shower so my mom drew me a bath. She had to sit by the tub with me and help me get in and out. I wouldn’t say that it was embarrassing, but I would never have thought that as a twenty year old woman, my mother would have to give me a bath. It made me sad, for myself, the fact that this was what I had been reduced to in a few short weeks, after being so independent my whole life. It makes me sad now, to remember the times when I made my mom stay in the hall while I left the bathroom door open just in case I needed her help, because I couldn’t trust myself to take care of me. Cancer has a way of chiseling away at your independence, at your right to your own body, your own life. This is the mental tug-of-war with cancer, a mind game that I am still playing even today.

~to be continued~

Keep checking back for Part 3, that’s where things start to get really, well, shitty.

Thanks for the love everyone

xoxo Kathy